Friday, July 10, 2015
Back when we were raising our children, James Dobson was the fount of all knowledge in my opinion. If Dr Dobson recommended it, I did it!:) He suggested using a wooden spoon for punishment rather than using your hand to spank your child. Most of my friends kept their wooden spoons on top of the Fridge just as I did.
I really did not use the spoon very often as I found that all three of my children were different when it came to disciplining them. My oldest son, Ben, made me wear out Dr Dobson's book, The Strong Willed Child. Frankly, paddling did not work on Ben as he did not care if you spanked him...did not bother him one bit. With Ben, sending him to his room was a better punishment. It gave us both a chance to calm down! He, just like his mom, wanted to have the last word! We butted heads many a time.
Amelia was my easiest child. She rarely misbehaved and if she did a "talking to" was all that was needed. Youngest son, Charles had a tender heart so he was easily disciplined as well. Like his mother, he could not lie as his face was an open book!!
I must add that I am talking about when they were little children. After the age of ten, I did not use the spoon at all but devised other punishments that took away privileges.
When I was a child, parents in the part of North Georgia where I lived used "hickries"( hickory sticks). Usually it was small limb from a bush in the yard. My mother kept hers on the mantle of the fireplace. I guess she had not read the magazines that say mantles are for decorative pieces and not hickries!! And if your parents wanted to really punish you, they made you go to the yard and pick out a hickory. If it was not substantial enough, they would chose their own!! Oh my goodness, now days children would call DHR on their parents!
I know there are many different opinions on corporal punishment but I can honestly say that I do not believe it hurt me and it did teach me to think twice before misbehaving!! So are there any other hickory or wooden spoon survivors out there???